As a mom you always think your children are the best in the world and maybe it is my parent “googles,” but I think my son is one special little guy. As a 3 1/2 year old, he does what any other 3-year-old is supposed to do, drive mommy crazy! He asserts himself more and more everyday, tests me on a daily….no wait… on a minute to minute basis, asks tons of questions that I run out of answers for, picks on his sister, and loves to make messes. I am trying to raise a sympathetic and caring child(like all of us), but there are times when I wonder if what I’m doing is working. Is he ever going to get over this “wanting to destroy and take apart everything and then throw those items at his sister” stage. He loves to push his sister just as much as he loves to give her hugs. He loves to take her books away from her just as much as he loves to sit next to her and “read” to her. He loves to take her food while she is eating just as much as he loves to feed her. So I’m conflicted. Is he trying to keep mommy confused or is it just normal boy behavior? I teach him to be “nice” and “take care” of his sister and to watch out for her and to “protect” her. So when things are starting to seem like he will never be this way. A “bit and piece” appears that shows me that my worrying is for nothing. I bought a doll and play crib for my girl and we were all playing with it. My girl was taking care of the baby and my son was throwing the doll around. I told him he needed to help his sister take care of the baby, sing to the doll and put her in the crib so she could “sleep.” Then we all get ready for bed. We go upstairs and I put the doll in her crib between my son’s bed and his sister’s crib(they share a room). I go to check on them a little while later and find that my girl is asleep, but my darling son is still awake. I notice that he has something in his bed. I realize that the doll’s crib is next to him, but I don’t see the “baby.” I ask him where the “baby” is and he says, “right here” and points to his chest. The doll is upside down, underneath his shirt. I’m thinking why in the heck is the baby underneath his shirt and why is it upside down? So I calmly ask him, “Why is the baby under your shirt and not on top of your chest? You should have her on top of your chest to rock her to sleep.” Then he says, “No Mommy, the baby was thirsty?” So I ask kind of puzzled, “Well then why don’t you give her some water?” In which he then responds, “because she wanted milk Mommy, so I am giving it to her!” Aww, my sweet innocent son. He will be a great dad one day and if his wife can’t breastfeed, he’ll gladly take over. I guess I know what to get him for Christmas! Maybe a breastfeeding doll? Lord help me now!
Do have any shards of evidence that your parenting has worked?
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